How to separate yourself from your “at home” situation
Not all of us are blessed with the most caring, loving, and supportive “at home” situations. Some of us have families that use drugs, enable us, or don’t understand why we did what we did. There are some of us who have to begin taking steps to separate ourselves from any and all negativity and for you this may mean your family.
Here are ways to separate yourself from your “at home” situation:
Get help! Getting therapy, counseling or joining a fellowship that is in the same situation as you is a great idea to begin separating yourself from your home situation. Other people can give you great suggestions on what to do to begin really creating that distance to better yourself and them.
Move out or find another place to live – Moving out or finding another place is a great option if you need to separate yourself from your “at home” situation. This may or may not be possible for you, if it is think long and hard about how helpful this may be for you and your newly found recovery.
Allow yourself to get angry – Get angry but use it productively. Don’t take your anger out on the actual people in your home but rather write in a journal.
Limit your time – Limiting the time you spend connected to your “at home” situation is imperative. Whether it is visits or phone calls if you start limiting and setting time constraints on the amount of time you give yourself with your situation than it is easier to begin separating.
Set healthy boundaries – Setting boundaries will not only allow you to separate yourself but it will keep you from getting sucked back in to a toxic at home situation. You can always love from a distance and the boundaries will help keep you at that distance.
Learn ways to take care of yourself – Whether it is meditation or yoga, find something to do for yourself to keep yourself sane in case something were to happen that upsets you. Having a situation at home that you have to separate yourself from can be really stressful. Find things that you like to do to de-stress and decompress from the anxiety of dealing with your home life.
Take charge of your life and your happiness – Don’t wait for your family or your at home situation to change. The only thing you can change is yourself no one else not even the people who love you most. So do the things that make you happy and do the things in your life that you want to do because no one else knows how much it is going to hurt if you don’t do it, only you. You have control, separate yourself and begin living your life.
Let go of the grudges – If you are holding any grudges or resentments towards your at home situation make sure to let go of them. All the grudges are doing are making you miserable not your family or at home life. Letting go of grudges towards your situation will allow you to move on in peace and finally allow you to truly begin separating yourself.
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